i am feeling you a lot lately.
you are always with me.
i think it's slowly sinking in that you are gone and you aren't coming back.
i need to cry but for some reason i just can't. i get the tears in my eyes but i can't let down this wall enough to let them loose.
i so long to hear your voice, your laughter

happy easter daddy! missing you a lot lately... not that i don't miss you everyday, it just seems like I am missing you more lately. 

So ... I am sure tommy lillo is with you now. susie is having a hard time. her aunt candy told her to suck it up and stop crying... bitch! his service is next saturday with a luncheon following at the rendezvous lounge... kind of tacky if you ask me. the man was an alcoholic... it was kind of crass of them to suggest having the luncheon there. susan and patty aren't planning on staying there long. maybe go for a few minutes and then leave. who would want to go there to mourn their father anyway. 

i had to call her after he passed and that was hard for me. it was selfish reasons that i put it off. i didn't know what to say to her and it's still so fresh in my mind, the idea that you aren't here. i was glad that i could offer her some comfort and let her know that she isn't alone. her phone call brought so much back to me. the memory of the doctor telling us that it was a matter of time and that feeling i had of fear and panic and wondering what on earth was going to happen to me once you left us. it's a hopeless and powerless feeling. nothing anyone could have done would have changed the outcome of that day. we had to just accept it and move on. there are so many days when i think i have a handle on your death, but deep down I really don't. i still think you are alive and i still expect to see you when i go and visit. it's easy to forget sometimes because towards the end you spent so much time in bed, sleeping because you were in so much pain. i wish that i had more memories of you and i to comfort me... right now I am at a loss. i hear your voice when i am cooking most of the time... today as a matter of fact while I was cooking a sweet potato casserole, i could hear you telling me to clean as I go ... so i put things in the sink while i work and rinse and sponge off what i can. 

i am going back to school. elementary education... pretty certain of it... applied for financial aid and was declined... guess I make too much money. need to get some prerequisites done and then i can move ahead with focusing on the core classes for the degree. phil has been trying to get me to do this for years, i should have listened to him... don't tell him i said that though. haha!

FINALLY watched The Godfather last week. I could so feel you and see you in that movie. it was insane. i wish that we could have watched it together. we are going to watch the trilogy and then for the third one i am going to make an italian style type dinner. really looking forward to it. i would love to get the red and white checkered tablecloth and some of those wine bottle's wrapped with the twine for candle holders and make a big deal about it. i don't know why and i am sure aaron will tease me but that is ok. 

aaron almost *THIS CLOSE* has a job with Ambitrans. it's not the sarasota county fire department but it would allow him to use his medic training and he can still volunteer with the fire department so it is the best of both worlds. keeping my fingers crossed and trying not to get too excited. 

mom is taking her CNA test May 2nd. Please help her and bring her peace. she is trying to hard... you would be proud of her. I am!

i think i have caught you up. going to go now and finish getting ready for our fun filled easter day. 

love and miss you soooo much daddy!

mom gave me a golf towel that she found in your high boy... it smells like you. sometimes when i am thinking about you, i take a whiff and i feel like you are closer to me. i still think we are all in a stage of shock. it's weird. some days when i go to mom's i KNOW that you aren't going to be there, but there are other days when i am expecting you to be there. it's the strangest thing. i see a lot of people in those electronic chairs and ask myself why they are here and you are not. i see people with one leg, and wonder why they are here and you are not. it's not fair. you left before you should have. i feel like a broken record, but i have nothing new... it feels the same almost everyday. i keep wondering why... and that it wasn't fair. 

i am so grateful that i was able to be with you in your final moments. it's something that I will always cherish. you were there for my first breaths and I was there for your final ones. it's a sort of completion of a cycle in some way. I remember kissing you goodbye on your head and knowing that i would never get to do that again. I remember embracing mom and that gut wrenching feeling that none of us were prepared for the next part... dealing with the aftermath of your death. what you left behind was a mighty wake. a wake that will pass at it's own pace... in it's own way... on it's own time. 

we love and miss you dad! 

please watch over us and keep us safe! 

sometimes i forget

sometimes i forget. 

forget that you are gone

forget that what you look like

forget that you were here

this really bothers me. i never want to forget.how can my father not be here anymore? i want to remember everything. how is it that after such a short period of time i feel like i am forgetting you? i am on this planet because of you. i know you wouldn't want us to stop living because you have moved on, but it feels like the more i live the further i get from you. that scares and saddens me. i know i have pictures to look at to bring you back or songs that i can listen to or even certain smells that conjure up memories, but they can't bring you back in the flesh. the human connection is what i feel slipping away and what i want so desperately to cling to. nothing can bring that back.

Just because you are gone doesn't mean that you aren't still with me and this i know. i talk to you everyday! you don't always respond.... hello, manners?!?!? but i know that we are connected. 

i miss you dad!  

dear dad #14

You seem to come to me at weird times. Mostly when I am driving or cooking and also grocery shopping. I always think of you when I am perusing the steaks. HA HA! I always wants to call and ask you how to cook a certain cut of beef. Why is that? I made beef and tortellini stew for the first time a few weeks ago and it turned out great. Mom really enjoyed it. So did Aaron and Dwayne. I know you would have liked it too.

I went shopping a few weeks ago and got some nice clothes. I brought them to the house to give a fashion show and I really wish that you had been there to see me "model" too. I know you were/are proud of me for the weight that I have lost. I remember getting excited the first time I was able to buy smaller clothes and I got to come over and show you and mom. It might be silly, but it made me feel good! :)

The cruise is fast approaching for mom and Janice. I know it's going to be super bittersweet for them to go, but I REALLY feel that it will be good for both of them too. I know you want mom to go and not let you stop her anymore. She needs this. She has EARNED this. I know you would agree with me. You both earned it. 45 years in this day and age is nothing to shake a stick at. I know you will be with her in spirit. 


You are really keeping me going with this diet. I have been struggling lately. I want to just stuff my face with EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING, but you were so proud of me, and I don't want to let you down. It's one of the last things you said to me.... that I looked good and that you were proud of me for sticking to the diet. So now, whenever I have the urge to stuff myself I remember what you said and resist the temptation. I just wish you could be here to see me hit my goal weight. Considering everything going on lately, your passing and the holidays, I managed to only gain like 3 lbs. Not to shabby if you ask me. I am proud of myself for managing to keep the weight off. I have 12 more to go until my goal and I could win $50 from Neil Dearwester - we have a bet going to see who can get to 60 lbs first. 


I wish mom could get a new job. Please help her. She is waiting to hear from Maryann's place, who is offering a full time position, with benefits. She needs to get away from Randy. He has been good to her, but he is too temperamental and things aren't improving there. 

Watch over us and if you could pull some strings for the lottery or a job for Aaron, that would be FANTASTIC!


love and miss you bunches
alicia 


p.s. i could really use a hug about now :(

Good morning Pal

Hey dad. I am sorry it has been a while since I last wrote something. Even though I was in the room, when you passed away, there are days that go by where I truly cannot believe you are not with us anymore. A few days ago I thought I saw you behind the wheel of a car. Actually that has happened a few times.

Well Cindy and I had to go through the process of getting a new roof. They hopefully will be completing that today. Andrew Covino's step-dad's company is putting in the roof. He gave us a good price. Once he realized we were related, he dropped the price so we could afford to do it. I will be relieved once the final nail is in place; knowing, or actually hoping, the roof is secure and will stop the dripping that occurs between the roof and the pan roof over the pool. Anyway, it would have been great to have you here to walk me through the process a little bit more. Hope I made the right decision with the right company.

From where I sit, your football pool, was a big hit. Charles lost to cousin Mike by one game. And it was the Eagles who could have cost Charles $130.00. Mike took the Cowboys in the final game of the season against the Eagles. Charles took the Eagles. And it was close race to the end, which made it exciting. Nice legacy dad.

Well keep a watchful eye on us and pray for mom. Help her determine the right path for her.

Miss and love you pal.

Take care.

Phil
The Eagles will be playing Sunday against the Packers at home. Hopefully the result will be different.

Happy New Year 2011 Blah!!

Jan. 4, 2011
Hey honey,
Well it is not a Happy New Year for me, it is for you I guess because you are out of your pain and out of the damn wheel chair and you are free. Well my misery and pain have started and now I have a life ahead of me without you and it scares me to death. I have never lived or been alone except for your stays in the hospital and of course the nursing home but I always had you in my life. Well things have happened you would like! Nancy Pelosi is no longer speaker of the house, John Baner is now going to have that job. Rick Scott won for Governor of Florida as you wanted and Charlie Covino sent me a great clip regarding the filming of the God Father,showing it was filmed in Staten Island, either New York or New Jersey.It was very interesting. On new years eve I went to see Burlesque for the 2nd time and then to Applebee's with the girls and I had 1/2 of a frozen Daiquiri ( strawberry) it was very good. I am trying to decide what to do with the rest of my life as far as a job/career, or as much of a career as I could have.Life it topsy/turvy for me at this time. Oh, before I forget, Michael got engaged.this past Christmas and your brother is doing OK. Aunt Frani, I am not sure about, Phil told me her cancer has returned but she did not tell me.
Well guess who is hiring? The Consulate. Help me to get this job if it is the one for me. It might be just what I need to get some extra money, it is a part time position, just what I need and maybe I can get in there full time if they like me and if I really like the job, please help me.

Miss and Love you,
Me